Midnight Sun January 2023

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Welcome to the January 2023 edition of The Midnight Sun!

Happy New Year!

As we greet 2023, we in House Kheperu are excited for the coming year, and looking forward to what the future holds!

As Gather comes ever closer on the horizon, Submissions for Gather Classes are coming to a close, and we are hard at work reviewing entries! Stay tuned because we will share here as we have more updates for you, and keep an eye on our Social Media for other news and updates!

With the Wolf Moon full early this year (January 6th), there will be plenty of time this month to work with the waning of the moon to clear out the old and make way for the new and what adventures this year has in store.

Are you planning anything specific, or have certain things you’re wanted to shed from your life?

I know I find doing a bit of house cleaning, donating clothes or items to charity or shelters, vacuuming the extra cat out of my carpet, and spraying my house blessing solution are always useful things to me during a waning moon- but there is all manner of things folks do and engage for clearing and cleansing a space. Let’s continue the conversation on our Discord forum - I’d love to hear what, if any, plans you have!

This month we introduce three new columns you can look forward to reoccurring as the months go by; Stef’s Shadow Work Slow-Dance, Buck Tarot, and Tea, With Hex! Izlude has another contemplation for us, Suz has a write-up on the Chinese New Year, and we have another entry from the Tome of the Darkside Ritualist from Abri!

Needless to say, I hope you enjoy the newsletter this month. And if there’s anything you’d like to see in the future - let us know via Social Media, or Discord! We’re always interested to know what you’re interested to know!

There’s always more to learn, friends!

Miranda (Frick)
Curator and Editor of TMS

 

Stef’s Shadow Work Slow-Dance

Battling the Mask

“Take off the mask and find out.”

In early 2020 a fellow house member said this to me, and I repeat it to myself often. At the time, I was afraid of discovering I was a monster underneath the façade I had created. It’s still unclear what kind of monster I thought I was, but there was no way I would go digging for it and fuck anyone who tried to get me to do that work. I was terrified of being a ‘bad person,’ I often spent so much time attempting to make others happy that my whole personality revolved around gaining approval. Ultimately, I ended up cranky, mad, and upset that instead of finding out who I was and building my sense of self, I created a person I thought everyone wanted and expected.

I often spent so much time attempting to make others happy that my whole personality revolved around gaining approval.

We move through life wearing layers of masks, and people are often praised or admired for how easily they can adapt, swap disguises, and pretend to be someone else. This so-called skill, known as “masking” is embedded deep within us by society and so normalized that breaking out of that pattern is seen as deviant behavior.

Masking is so common that people often struggle to answer “How are you” honestly. Instead we respond with “good”, “fine”, or some iteration of a generic response because who wants to hear the truth? Right? This level of acting can be so tiresome, and while many of us may do this unconsciously, we’re upset when someone tells us, “You’re the only one thinking you’re masking effectively.” 

So join me in future newsletters as we ‘take off the mask and find out’ who we really are and ask ourselves questions only the deepest and darkest corners of our psyche may answer.

House Kheperu Member Spotlight

Kelly

"Do it big, do it right, give it class."

WHAT INTERESTS YOU MOST ABOUT ENERGY WORK?

"The connections between people when working together. The trust between those doing the work is paramount. If there isn't trust, you won't be as open as you need to be to the working or experience. The connections grow and flourish when you trust those you're working with.

WHAT IS ONE OF YOUR FAVORITE MOVIES?

Labyrinth and the Princess Bride

 

Buck Tarot

Hello everyone! I’m Buck, a Dedicant on the Warrior Path in House Kheperu and I’m going to be doing tarot for you this month and buncha more months so stick around!

What is Buck Tarot?

RANDOM FUN! Every month I will put a bunch of categories into my wheelofnames.com wheel and spin for three! I will pull three cards for each one and tell you what I see! The goal is to use three different tarot decks but I only have one right now soooo… I gotta pick up two more. I’ll get ‘em later, promise, promise. Now, this is the neat part; I know very little about what the cards actually mean. HEHE.

So I’ll be looking at the cards and writing up what comes to mind using my intuition. This is for fun, so please join me on this adventure… BUCK TAROT GO!

February 2023 - Food

FOOOOOOOOD. We all love food right?

First – Ten of Pentacles

OKAY SO! Here we see a cute little scene on a farm.. PERFECT! This is where food comes from. Phew, we are off to a great start here. Alright ANNND.. we see a lady waving to a man here and he looks pretty happy to see her.. well duh she has food. I know I look at my wife lovingly when she has food for me. We got this old lady chillin… good-good, she need to chill she’s done her hard work. And we got kids playing in the background hell yeah they are having fun. So basically what I’m getting from this… eat your veggies.. flirt with your veggies.. they gonna make your life hella good.

Second – STAR

Alllright.. we got a pretty priestess-looking lady here and she has a cute little person on a throne on her head.. heheh.. okay THAT IS A DISTRACTION! That little guy has been distracting me so don’t let distractions get in the way.. this card is screaming… DRINK WATER!!! FOR THE LOVE OF THE GODS DRINK WATER!! She is literally crying because your ass wont drink water. Soda and other drinks are yummy distractions but… drink your damn water. Lets be hydrated and healthy PEOPLE!

Third – CHARIOT

Oh man this card is so pretty… But what is it telling me…. HMMM… HM… of course eating at home, making your meals is yummy and good for the finances but takes a lot of work. Treat yourself to take out once in awhile! Order in or go out! Either way enjoy yourself! You work hard and life sucks sometimes. ORDER THAT PIZZA!!!

 

HK Jams - Flurries Fury

What are the Kheprians listening to this January? Check out our January playlist and give it a listen! Let us know what your favorite song is over on our Facebook, Instagram, or start a conversation over on our Discord Server.

 

The Cycle of Sleep


 Winter is oftentimes a period of deep introspection, and reflection on the nature of life, death, and everything in between. What else is there to do really, when buried five feet deep in snow and ice? This is the time when the shadows grow long and deep, with Nature herself seeming to fall into slumber. Be patient, for the bitter Winter winds bear aloft next Spring’s seeds. The flower knows when it’s time to sleep, and time to bloom, and like Nature, we should alter our expectations for ourselves when the times are dark and cold. We are human beings, not human-doings, and when the darkness grows it is a time to simply be, and not do. 

It is within this space of quiet contemplation that I’ve been theorizing about the living and the dead. It seems there is a cycle between them, with the living spending a third of their time asleep and two-thirds awake.

Perhaps the dead have a similar cycle, spending two-thirds of their time in peaceful sleep, and one-third of their time closer to awake. Perhaps sleep is that point between these two states of being, where the living are drawn closer to the dead, and the dead wake up just enough for contact? In the silence of your mind, the depths of your sleep, there could be a bridge between these two states of being. Perhaps when the dead are roused from their restful sleep, they remember their lives a bit more, and ghostly shenanigans occur? These are the things I think about in the depths of Winter!

The seeds of life are still and quiet, waiting for their time to grow, and sometimes it is the quality of this particular silence that brings Truth. Holding onto their potential, knowing what they will become, the seeds wait for their time. In these tough times, remember that it is only for a season. Know that this too shall pass, and when these troubled times are over, it will be your time to blossom.

 

Happy Capricorn Season!

“Capricorn”
By Miranda Harrell, 2023

 

Tea, With Hex

Hello friends, and welcome to "Tea with Hex"! This will be a regularly-occurring column for Midnight Sun focusing on things like news in the greater world of witchcraft/paganism/woo, book reviews, and spicy musings.

Statue representing Janus Bifrons in the Vatican Museums. Photo by Marie-Lan Nguyen (2009)

January is named for the Roman god Janus, whose name is etymologically related to the Latin word for "door", ianua. Janus was an interesting Roman god, one of the few who was not stolen borrowed from the Greeks, and renamed. He was proudly venerated as a uniquely Roman deity. His identity was his own. How refreshing that must feel, to be able to embrace one's identity without having it conflated or confused or inappropriately labeled as something else.

I'm taking my cue from The Things That Talk To Me to capitalize on this very Janusarian occasion and discuss identity. Note, I did not say "labels". Those are different, and once again, a subject easily conflated with something else. Labels and identities are not the same things.

No, read that again, please. Maybe one more time, for good measure. Drink something.

Now we may continue.

No one in this life can tell you what your truth is. Nay, in fact that is House Kheperu's motto, "seek your own truth". That may feel very frustrating, when we don't know what our truth is, or how to seek it in the first place, who we are, or what we're even doing here on this chunk of rock hurtling through space. In the course of our lives, we try on a variety of different hats, searching for at least one that fits. Son, husband, partner, manager, witch, magician, vampire, gay, straight, pansexual. A few of them may stick, and within your heart of hearts, a hazy shape begins to coalesce and define itself based on these descriptors and all the cultural (and personal) subtext surrounding them. These are our identities, the truths that we unlock within ourselves and claim as part of our persona and our power.

“I don’t label myself, I’m just me.”

There was a very interesting trend that started a few years ago, and I still see commentary like this today. "I don't label myself, I'm just me." See, there's this weird mix-up again between labels and identity. Labels are things we put on other people (usually without their consent, but that's a whole different article). What you decide to claim for yourself is your identity. That shit is powerful, because it comes from you, not somebody else's flawed perception of you. You can see yourself quite clearly, you know what you're about. Standing in your own truth, acknowledging exactly who and what you are, and roaring it to the very ramparts of the heavens…that's a transcendent experience. Indeed, mystery cults in antiquity were sometimes founded over less.

And as for the folks who use phrases like "identity politics," well. If you find my identity somehow threatening, that sounds like a you-problem and not a me-problem there, homeskillet. U mad, bro?

Heh, drink something.

Identities help us tap into all kinds of things, from archetypal representations of things pulled out of the collective unconscious, to our ancestors of path or blood, to past lives, and beyond. The concept of identity stretches back into time immemorial, when our first self-aware ancestors realized they were separate and distinct from one another. This is how we find our truth: by finding who we are. Inscribed upon the forecourt of the Temple of Apollo at Delphi were the words "Know Thyself", and while it is an excellent maxim, less often do you hear what was inscribed within the room of the sibyls themselves:

Identities help us tap into all kinds of things, from archetypal representations of things pulled out of the collective unconscious, to our ancestors of path or blood, to past lives, and beyond.
— Hex

The temple of Apollo (the centre of the Delphi oracle and Pythia) dated to the 4th century BC. Photo by Helen Simonsson.

"I warn you, whoever you are, oh! You who want to probe the "Arcana of Nature", that if you do not find within yourself that which you are looking for, you shall not find it outside either! If you ignore the excellences of your own house, how do you pretend to find other excellences? Within you is hidden the treasure of treasures! Know Thyself, and you will know the Universe and the Gods." 

Now that's a prayer.

And as we awaken to ourselves, we serve to awaken the very world.

Im Khaibit

Night of Shades

Excerpt from the Tome of the Darkside Ritualist

It is a common turn of phrase in many circles that 'the veil thins' at certain times of the year. The phrase often implies that the dead, the spirit world, or even subtle energies from elsewheres are easier to reach and, in some cases, overlap with the here and now. Whatever the belief may be, the practice of reaching across some indiscernible distance to connect or reconnect to those who are no longer with us is a part of the Kheprian tradition as well.

Night of Shades, held close to the 1st of February, honors our ancestors, our beloved dead, and goes beyond merely acknowledging them. Im Khaibit highlights our active work with our Disembodied, those Kheprians who do not inhabit bodies and spirit individuals to whom we have shared connection to from lifetime to lifetime. Many of our Disembodied are present amongst us, taking up work alongside those of us in the flesh.

We honor our Disembodied

Many were once inhabited the flesh as we do now and will inhabit it again. We will eventually stand as they stand now, as Disembodied, and they will help us as we help them.

What does this ritual look like? It is deceptively simple and yet, it is deeply impactful. At a glance, the rite is one where we recite the names (if known) of those Disembodied that we all work with. Often as individuals work and walk along their Path in the House, Disembodied make themselves known and sometimes share a name. We acknowledge the work they have done, taking time to give them thanks for their efforts, and then those of us in the flesh make an offering of energy to further support them and give gratitude to each.

The offering of energy is not unlike many practices around the world that honor ancestors. We light candles for them. We give offerings of food, water, or whatever we may feel called to offer to them. As Kheprians, we understand that the energy of an offering is the subtle stuff that nourishes our Disembodied. We give the energy, the intention, and the vibrancy of being within a body to them to continue to sustain them.

Im Khaibit. Night of Shades. It is a celebration of the dead and the last Darkside ritual before the Transition. Although we walk in winter still, we know that spring will soon come. The time of darkness wanes, reminding Kheprians that even death isn't forever. We know that one day we will be those spirits, standing next to those in bodies, guiding and guarding them as they continue to do the work in their lifetimes.



— Cat ‘Abri’ Rogers

Darkside Ritualist, House Kheperu

Chinese New Year 2023

The Year of the Rabbit

by Suz Tabares

It is almost Chinese New Year, also known as Lunar New Year or Spring Festival. This is the most important festival in China and a major event in many other East Asian countries and larger Western cities with a growing Asian population. This is the festival that celebrates the beginning of a new year on the Chinese lunisolar calendar, and is traditionally a time to honor deities and ancestors.

It has also become a time to feast and visit family members. Legend states that the Chinese New Year stemmed from an ancient battle against the Nian, a terrifying beast that showed up every Lunar New Year's Eve to eat people and livestock. To scare away the monster, people displayed red paper, burned bamboo, lit candles, and wore red clothing. These traditions have continued until the present time.

The date of the Chinese New Year is determined by the Chinese lunar calendar and though the date changes every year it always falls somewhere in the period between January 21st and February 20th. This year Chinese New Year is on Sunday, January 22nd. Celebrations of Chinese New Year traditionally last for 16 days, starting from Chinese New Year's Eve to the Lantern Festival. The lunar calendar follows a 12-year cycle and every year is represented by an animal based on the Chinese Zodiac. The 12-year cycle also follows the five elements of nature arranged in order: Wood, Fire, Earth, Metal, and Water. Each Chinese year is associated with an animal according to the Chinese zodiac cycle. 2023 is the year of the Rabbit, specifically, Water-Rabbit. The sign of Rabbit is a symbol of longevity, peace, and prosperity in Chinese culture and can also mean relaxation, fluidity, quietness, and contemplation.

2023 is predicted to be a year of hope.

Every culture that celebrates the Lunar New Year has lasting customs and traditions that they follow. Cleaning their houses before the Spring Festival symbolizes sweeping away the previous year's bad luck, preparing their homes to receive good luck. Red is the main color for the festival, as red is believed to be an auspicious color for the Lunar New Year, denoting prosperity and energy — which ward off evil spirits and negativity. Red lanterns hang in the streets; red couplets and New Year pictures are pasted on doors.

Regional customs and traditions vary widely but share the same theme: ushering out the old year and welcoming in the luck and prosperity of the new. Honoring the dead is a Chinese New Year’s tradition and many people visit Ancestors' graves offering sacrifices before dinner to symbolize their Ancestors "eating" first. The New Year's Eve meal is called the reunion dinner and often an extra glass and place is set for the Ancestors' at the table. Big families of several generations enjoy food and time together. Certain dishes are eaten to ensure good luck for the coming year. Chinese dumplings and fish symbolise wealth and prosperity. Noodles represent happiness and longevity, while meatballs mean family unity.

This is a season of red envelopes which traditionally contain money. Those who receive a red envelope are wished another safe and peaceful year. Other popular Lunar New Year gifts are alcohol, tea, fruits, and candies. On the night of the Lantern Festival streets are decorated and billions of fireworks go up to scare away evil and welcome the new year's arrival at 12 am. Lion dances and dragon dances are widely seen in China and Chinatowns in many Western countries during the Lunar New Year period. They are performed to bring prosperity and good luck for the upcoming year and event.

Chinese New Year Superstition: Things You Mustn't Do Traditional belief is that the way you start the year affects it's outcome, so Spring Festival is a season of superstitions. It's believed that what something looks like (color, shape), and what its name sounds like, gives it auspicious or ill-fated significance. There are many things you cannot do during the season. If you sweep up on New Year's Day you could sweep all your luck away. Don't eat porridge for breakfast or you may welcome poverty to your door. Washing your clothes and hair on New Year’s might 'wash your fortune away'.

In todays social climate there is much debate on the difference between Appreciation and Appropriation. I am blessed with a family froth with several cultures and traditions and we choose to celebrate the Lunar New Year with a big family dinner, homemade dumplings, laughter and love of all cultures. So please join me in Appreciation of the Chinese traditional New year, gather family and honor the Ancestors, eat dumplings and noodles and be sure to ring in the Lunar New Year with a Bang!

Midnight Sun December 2022

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Welcome to the December 2022 edition of The Midnight Sun!

As you can see, we've had some updates recently; From Gather 2023 returning to in-person and ticket sales going live, to the format of this newsletter and changes to the website, we are bringing new things to the community and excited about the future.

With that excitement, we want to share some of the things you can look forward to in the coming months from The Midnight Sun specifically.

...a high-level sample of some of the wonderful content you can expect to see going forward!
— Miranda (Frick)
  • First and foremost; We’re going monthly! Yay! Instead of being bi-yearly now, we are looking to provide fun, and engaging content on a monthly basis to better keep you up to speed on what we in House Kheperu are up to and interested in!

  • New format! As you can see we have given The Midnight Sun a makeover, and a new home! Now available on our website, be sure to subscribe for news, updates, tips, tricks, and insights as well as all kinds of fun things we have planned for you in the coming months, some of which are listed below!

  • Of course, we will have updates and information about Gather and our growing library of Online community content!

  • We are going to have Member written articles, as long-time readers know is a staple, but with a twist! We are leaning into the interests and passions of our members for some focused and informative columns that will rotate in and out over the months. From Journal Prompts, Contemplations, and Reviews of Occult interests, to Advice, Comics, and some fun humor, we are currently building some really good content we are looking forward to sharing.

  • Member Spotlights will also help you get to know members of the House! We plan to Spotlight a member with a few questions each month, so that you, the reader, get an exclusive peek into all the many hard-working and dedicated souls that put their hearts into this community!

And that’s a high-level sample of some of the wonderful content you can expect to see going forward!

As ever we also have the wonderful Discord community that you can join if you are inclined to online forums, and if you are a fan of TikTok, we also have in the last year dipped our toes into the short form content arena - Check out our Contact page for where to find us on Discord, Tiktok and other social media platforms for more juicy morsels and updates.

I know I’ve said it a few times now, but I personally am very excited to help curate and bring such wonderful changes and new things to you all! If you’re reading this; welcome to the new readers, to our long time readers we are glad you’re still with us, and stay tuned - We’ve got some really good stuff in store for you all!


May your Holidays be safe and smooth, and may it be with excitement and hope that you stride confidently into the New Year!

Miranda (Frick)
Curator and Editor of TMS

HK Jams - Snow Tracks

Music can often play a significant role in our lives. Sometimes it is just great to have on in the background while you clean, work, study, or drive. Here’s some of the songs that the Kheprians are currently jamming out to this month.

Let us know which song is your favorite on our social media. Use tag #HKSnowTracks and see what others are saying.

House Kheperu Gather 2023

After several years of astral (virtual) events, House Kheperu has decided that 2023 will be the year we return to our beloved in-person Gather. The decision was one we wanted to make in 2022 but felt more confident giving it some time. That time has arrived.

Four Points by Sheraton Cleveland Airport Hotel

This hotel sits just off I-71 near the Cleveland Airport and across the street from the bus terminal. This location is a huge step towards our goal of making Gather 2023 more accessible to our attendees. We hope you love it as much as we do.

Give the gift of Gather!

House Kheperu Gift Card is a great gift to share with friends and loved ones who wish would like the gift of an experience. Buy a gift card today!

 

Tea with Kheprians

Gather is a hectic event for House members. Often there is little or limited time to have deep interaction with the souls that come to experience and learn from the many wonderful classes and events Gather has to offer. In light of this awareness, an idea was pitched. What if we set aside the evening before the event started to just mingle and hang out? We could have an evening where can just sit around and chat; enjoying the fact that we are able to come back together again before the work of Gather begins.

Divination Sessions

HK introduces something completely new for attendees in 2023. Divination Sessions. These sessions with be conducted by members of House Kheperu experienced in different forms of divination, and below you will find information on who is available and what talents they are offering this year. These exclusive sessions are limited, and selections for who is available are on a first come first served basis with the purchase of your Gather ticket. You may choose to purchase one of these Divination Sessions with your ticket here.

Covid Safety Agreement

We’re so excited to be back in person! For three years we have put Gather on as a virtual event due to the Covid-19 pandemic. We care deeply about our community and wish to maintain as safe an environment as possible. Feel free to review our Covid Safety Agreement before purchasing your Gather 2023 tickets.

Defining Success for Yourself!

              How do you define success? Having enough money to do the things you want to do? The security and assurance of providing for your loved ones? To have the ability to act as you please? There are many definitions for success, and I feel there is a metric that society places upon it; usually, society determines your level of success by how wealthy you are. What is wealth? To me, wealth is not a measure of how much money is in the bank, (the more you possess, the more stress after all!), but rather how content you are in your current life circumstances. It is a balance, where one must gauge their own requirements of comfort, connectivity, and community. Living within one’s means is important, as is the determination to strive for a better means for oneself, if one finds that life isn’t quite what they require to be truly themselves.

It is a balance, where one must gauge their own requirements of comfort, connectivity, and community.
— Izlude

It takes work when you decide to stop being small for the sake of easy living and comfort, but it also takes wisdom to reflect on one’s circumstances, and craft a plan to claim a lifestyle where one can truly be content. I don’t want a mansion in the mountains, too many stairs! A single-story house with a furnished basement, and a nice little pickup truck would suit me, but what appeals to me might not appeal to everyone else!

              While musing over what life circumstances and living conditions would better suit me, I realized that it is important for one to gauge their own measure of success, by their own definitions. Success isn’t necessarily gauged by morality; good and evil have nothing to do with success.  

Success is determined by the individual. A mafioso may determine their success within their family by how many clean hits they’ve performed, with nobody truly knowing that number apart from him. That is a successful hitman! Everyone has their own morals, and I could not claim success while betraying my own morals, which automatically places me at a disadvantage against those who do not consider morals as such an important measure. This had led to people gaining things that I could not, because it would have demanded that I betray my morals. However, when I lay my head down at night and sleep soundly with no guilt or shame, knowing that I didn’t betray my beliefs for the sake of better circumstances, I dream with a smile.

House Kheperu Member Spotlight

Stefanie

“It’s fine…”

What interests you most about energy work?

"I love that energy work can be done and found anywhere. Energy work is planting a garden, laughing with friends, crying with friends, sex, cleaning your house or car, or anything else. It's interesting because sometimes the best results happen when you don't start by saying ‘let's do energy work.’”

What is one of your favorite movies?

“Pretty Woman. It's a classic love story (sarcasm) and I've been in love with Julia Roberts since I was a child.”

Art by Cat ‘Abri’ Rogers

Akhemu Sekhu

Night of Immortal Stars

Excerpt from the tome of the DarkSide Ritualist

Every year we celebrate House Kheperu’s festival of lights in the ritual of Akhemu Sekhu. Traditionally it is held on the longest night of the year, often around December 21st. But what does this ritual celebrate exactly?

The Night of Immortal Stars recognizes and celebrates the mystical connections that define House Kheperu members as Family. We gather with candles representing each member present. Additional candles are lit representing the categories of people who also share ties.

We reflect upon the subtle connections that weave between us from life to life and, in a moment of darkness, we collectively reach out to feel the webwork and reinforce our awareness of this deeper level of the House Kheperu's identity.

As Darkside Ritualist, this ritual is one of acknowledging all those both living, dead, lost, and forgotten. It brings our focus to our own, inner light and then outward until we see the glimmering network of other immortal stars. This ritual is also a reminder that even in our darkest moments, even when we feel so bitterly alone, even when the world feels detached and removed- we are still connected. We are still part of the expansive webwork of light that goes well beyond the bounds of flesh.

It reminds us that we are not alone.

House Kheperu Darkside Ritualist

Some of you may recognize this ritual or find it familiar. During the Covid-19 Pandemic, M. Belanger and House Kheperu hosted weekly Connection Rituals. This expansive group meditation expanded globally, gave individuals community, and reminded everyone trapped in their homes and apartments that despite the lonely days, they were not alone.

We are still part of the expansive webwork of light that goes well beyond the bounds of flesh.
— Cat 'Abri' Rogers, Darkside Ritualist

Through those hard times, we have come to understand as House members a deeper appreciation of this particular ritual. It had always be poignant. Standing in the ritual circle together; candles all aglow, we felt the power within and without ourselves. Through the pandemic, however, we each were faced with a very new sensation of loneliness. We could not stand together as we had for years. Spread out across the country, we came together in virtual spaces as disembodied voices, and still we celebrated. We discovered new and powerful parts of ourselves.

M. Belanger Connection Ritual

During this holiday season as the nights stretch out long and the daylight seems too brief, know that in the deepest of darkness? Even the tiniest light shines bright.

— Cat ‘Abri’ Rogers

Darkside Ritualist, House Kheperu

Saying goodbye to 2022.

Personal releasing rituals for the end of the year.

We've made it! We have survived one more turn of the wheel, and we can see the New Year on the horizon. Instead of setting impossible goals for the new year, let’s clean out our proverbial closets and start 2023 with a fresh breath and a calm heart.

What I am suggesting is the use of a personal releasing ritual. Let’s set our intentions for the coming year by releasing the things we've been carrying for so long. I don't know about anyone else but by the time December rolls around, I feel like the old horder woman in Labyrinth. I am carrying around so many things I've picked up through the year, and if I am honest through my life it is no wonder I am so tired!

We carry things we pick up through sentimentality, we carry things others hand us because they are too heavy for them to carry and soon our backs are bowed with the weight of the world. It is time to let things go. Put some things down that don't belong to you, or do not serve you any more. Let some people go who have come into your life and gone out again. Yes, we still carry them around too sometimes. People we've loved, people we've lost. Some people we never even liked!

We all know how often we hear "Journal Journal Journal!" And I have so many blank books I've written two or three pages in, I am overrun. (Might be time to let some of those go too! Donation is always a good solution for that.) I am not the best at keeping up with journaling but I love the idea of letting things go in a small personal way so that I can move forward into the new year less encumbered and with more freedom to make space for new experiences and adventures!

This can be done in several ways and I am happy to share with you a few of my favorites.

The first step is to create space. Light candles, burn incense, whatever symbolizes the marking and holding of space for you.

Sit with yourself and make a list of the things you no longer wish to carry into the new year. Gather pictures of those who have passed or passed out of your life. Cut out pictures to symbolize things you no longer want or need. Draw pictures if you are artistically inclined.

Release with fire.

This for me is the most cathartic of all ways to let things go. If you are blessed with a fireplace or a fire pit, gather things to symbolize the pieces you want to release and let go of in the coming year. Be thankful for the time you had them in your life (yes even that awful ex, there is always something we get out of relationships good or bad. Even if it’s just the raising of the bar for the next person), and let them go. Once you've made your list and gathered your things, burn them and release them, and see the weight of them leave in the smoke and ash.

Now, as wonderful as fire is, it can also be dangerous so please, do not burn things in a bowl sitting in the middle of your apartment on that flammable rug from Ikea. Best practice and always with caution and safety first.


Releasing in nature.

Write the things you want to release on a rock with chalk and drop it into a body of water. Again best practice, please no toxic paint pens, nothing that might cause harm. Just some chalk to wash away and take things away with it in the currents.

"But Suz, I don't have a back yard or fireplace, and I don't live near a body of water and eeww nature!"

I've got you!

Release and flush.

Write things down on toilet paper! You can make a long list but when it comes to letting go... please, take it in sections! Tear off a section and flush it down the toilet! It may sound silly but it is the symbolism that matters. Honestly, I have found this one to be very effective for things like negative people I was ready to release. Made me smile to push the handle down and watch them spiral out of my life!

The point is...let it go. (I couldn't resist)

However, if you choose to release all the things you are done with and do it with a light heart and a smile. A few tears might help cleanse the emotion but once they are gone, take a deep breath and look to the future with a lighter step.

Let’s start 2023 with a lighter heart and room for new things and new experiences. And just in case I don't see you before the 31st,

Happy New Year!
~Suz

Parting Thoughts

 
Photo by Meghan Rutledge

Photo by Meghan Rutledge

Sometimes things are built to last. It’s mind-boggling to think about; how ancient humans erected these massive stone monoliths despite the challenges they faced; And yet, multiple sites still stand today. Stonehenge, Gobleki Tepe, the Pyramids of Giza, Newgrange, and the Temples of Malta loom as beacons of a distant time in our minds but rarely do we stop to consider that they were built by people with the same minds hearts, and bodies as us. We wonder about their lives sometimes -Did they go home and rock their children to sleep with lullabies?

Did their partners lovingly wipe the dust from their bodies after dragging these enormous stones across the land? Did they feel pride in their work? Some things were built to last; and perhaps people -with all of our wild emotions, compulsions, and patterns, are one of those things. Do you remember them?